On what do the happiest people focus?
Where do they put their energies? Their thoughts?
Patricia Risch, PCC
Developing the ability to focus is an invaluable skill. Being focused in the moment means you are fully present to one activity. Being focused in the bigger picture means you are concentrated and clear on your future goals or intentions.
Are you wondering how to focus? Focusing is paying full attention – being fully present in body, mind and intention. Positive focus helps us to feel better and experience greater happiness. The power of focus cannot be underestimated.
So, what does not being focused look like?
We may jump around from task to task, procrastinate and make excuses. We may not be optimally efficient or productive.
When developing the ability to focus, happy people, according to Sonya Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness and Chris Peterson, Pursuing the Good Life:
- Focus on relationships and experiences over things. They savor the positive emotions in relationships.
- Focus on reasons for gratitude over reasons for complaint.
- Focus on meaningful purpose over financial gain.
- Focus on empathy over comparison. They get over comparison; it brings us down.
- Focus on hopes over fears.
- Focus on activity over passivity; moving, doing, being.
- Focus on positive bias and turn down the negative bias.
It takes discipline to change your thought patterns and think a different thought. We build momentum upon positive thoughts and emotions, which creates an upward spiral. Thoughts that involve our best feelings build upon each other and compound.
The benefits of learning how to focus positively, are many. We are more efficient, less stressed and more resilient. Positive focus helps us to get clear on what we want to change and what we do not want to change. We zoom in on our strengths and develop self-efficacy. Positive emotions help broaden our perspectives and offer new possibilities. Focus on hope brings greater happiness and helps us thrive in all domains of our lives. What we think, what we say and what we do are all aligned with our beliefs, values and truths about who we are and who we want to be.
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Coaching can help develop the ability to focus. We start small by zooming in on obstacles that are in the way of a clear focus and remove distractions one at a time or create ways to manage them better. We create new tiny habits which generate more concentration on one task. We set clear “bigger picture” goals.
As an ICF Professional Certified Coach with advanced training in coaching and mindfulness, I can help you to see obstacles that are in the way of a clear focus and obstacles that are in the way of maximizing potential and performance. Developing the power of focus over time builds and broadens to a new way of being in the world and a happier life.
Contact Patricia at coaching for sustainable change to schedule a consultation. You can contact me by email: firstname.lastname@example.org phone: 303.653.1072, or by filling out my transformational life coaching form for my Denver clients.